Your Map to Freedom

Too much thinking and worrying makes things worse not better.  It’s too easy to flip into emotional overwhelm or getting lost in the past.  And it takes time away from doing the simple things that will help you.

A map needs to be functional.  It’s a way to help you see the way from A to B, not a list of every single detail along the way.

So I’ve boiled everything down into a simple, positive, no-blame way to

a) understand an approval seeking pattern and why it stays stuck

b) identify the kinds of things that will help you

Let me know what you think in the comments below or by emailing me at [email protected]

What can you do to feel better on the inside?

In what ways have you been trying to be better than good and how could you ease off a bit?

Put them in the comments.  It will help them stick.

2 thoughts on “Your Map to Freedom”

  1. I liked this video. It was easy to understand and resonates with me. A fellow victim of narcissistic abuse told me “the problem with you is you’re too nice. You can see it in everything you do. You think if you treat the world nice, the world is going to be nice back to you. That’s not the way it works. You need to change.” (this in the aftermath of learning my wife of 20 years was a serial cheater, and betrayal by buddies who were our close family friends). I’m convinced he’s right, and I must change my thinking/behavior. I never want to experience this again.

    • Glad you liked it, JK. Good on you for deciding to change. And good ‘rule spotting’ from your friend. That’s a really common one. There’s a video coming up on being both kind AND strong.

      Remember to be kind to yourself in the meantime 🙂

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