Making Friends with Boundaries

Online class 7:30-9:00pm GMT Monday 2nd March / Choose your own price

Photo by Michael Dam 

For many people, the struggle with boundaries isn’t saying ‘no’.  The problem is that it feels selfish, wrong or anxiety inducing.  So you clam up and feel resentful instead.

It is good to have some skill around what to say and how. 

But the other half is feeling OK about it: Feeling and knowing that it is a valuable, caring thing to do. 

This interactive session is to help you allow yourself to feel good about setting boundaries so you can stop feeling resentful and let others connect with you as who you really are.

You

  • You want to have more balanced relationships but setting boundaries feels alien and wrong so you don’t do it
  • You’ve learned some assertiveness techniques but you just can’t bring yourself to put them into practice.

The Class

We’ll use a combination of loosening unhelpful thinking, building body awareness, visualisation, discussion and practice to start removing some of the most common blocks that might stop you standing up for yourself such as

  • “What’s the point? Whatever I say, nothing changes.”
  • “Standing up for myself is selfish. It feels wrong.”
  • “I’m afraid of their reaction and/or damaging our relationship”
  • “If I put up with it for a bit longer, eventually they’ll recognise everything I’ve done and things will work out.”

You’ll have a chance to get out of some of the thinking and feeling traps that can keep you stuck

You’ll have a chance to discuss your particular blocks and I’ll give you the best guidance I can in the time we have.

You’ll develop your body awareness to help you reconnect with your needs and start identifying what is a ‘yes’ for you and what is a ‘no’.

You’ll leave with some strategies and a plan for how to reinforce your learning in the future.


Note:  This session is about your ‘inner game’ – how you think and feel about setting boundaries.  We won’t have time to go into lots of detail about “What should I say to this person?” kinds of questions.  That’s for another class, although it’s usually a load easier when you’re feeling OK about it.

Baby steps:  If you have struggled with a particular issue for years, it’s unlikely that one class will suddenly change everything.  As an analogy, one yoga class won’t fix years of back pain.  But regular practice can.  It’s the same here.  Each nourishing baby step makes you feel better for the next step and the next one. It’s unlikely you will have explored boundaries in these ways before so you have a very good chance of finding some breakthroughs for yourself.


Join

If that sounds like something you’d like, then join the class. These things are best live because we get to interact but you will get a recording too.

Choose your own price.

As a guideline I’d suggest choosing something that’s around the same price as a yoga or fitness class near you. That might be more or less, depending where you live. But take your own circumstances into account as well. Choose what feels right for you. I don’t want anyone to not come because of money.

If you can’t afford the suggested minimum of £5 then email me and we’ll come up with something.

Otherwise, complete the box below and click ‘join class’, which will take you to Paypal where you can safely pay. I will email you within 24 hours of your booking.

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